Published on: December 7, 2012
by North Fulton:
Alzheimer’s and dementia are difficult to understand, especially for children.
The holidays can make it even more challenging to handle questions or concerns from children about a loved one with Alzheimer’s. Children may become frustrated, confused, afraid or uncomfortable, and the loved one may become agitated, aggressive or inappropriate.
Many families find themselves in this situation as 1 in 8 older Americans has Alzheimer’s, according to the Alzheimer’s Association. Experts recommend having an open and honest dialogue with children about memory loss, especially before visiting family members living with Alzheimer’s.
“I always recommend that families come up with visiting topics ahead of time. Children can bring artwork they made for the grandparent to discuss, look through pictures, bake cookies and decorate them together, talk about what they’re doing in school, share a special talent like reading poetry, and playing the piano or dancing,” said Jamie Lopez, vice president of healthcare, Constant Care Family Management, the property management company for Autumn Leaves memory care communities. “If it is a positive and structured visit, it will be enjoyable for the children and the grandparent.”
The connection between grandparents and grandchildren is strong, and interaction is meaningful for everyone involved. However, if a child wants to leave, it is best to end the visit. To compensate for the cognitive deficit, loved ones living with Alzheimer’s are more in tune with body language and emotions, and they will sense when a child is scared or uncomfortable. Lopez recommends keeping visits to 30 minutes or less to help avoid overstimulation and changes in the loved ones’ mood.
Often-times, children may ask why a grandparent doesn’t remember them or children may want to correct the grandparent. Experts suggest parents prepare for these kinds of questions.
“If children ask why grandma doesn’t remember them, it is best to explain that she cannot always remember things, but she knows the child is special, and this does not mean that she does not love the child,” said Lopez. “If a grandparent calls the child the wrong name, it is best to go along with that, instead of trying to make a correction.
Trying to provide a reality orientation for the grandparent draws attention to the cognitive deficit, and can lead to frustration and anger. Then, the children think they did something wrong.
explaining that the grandparent’s mind is not well, and by reiterating that the grandparent loves the child, it can help prevent children from blaming themselves.”
Lopez recommends exposing younger children to seniors to help reduce fear they may experience when visiting a loved one in an assisted living community.
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